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When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I asked you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I asked you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do - just hear me.
Advise is cheap.
And I can do for myself: I'm not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. And when that's clear , the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them.
So please listen and just hear me. And, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn and I'll listen to you
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